Your environment produces you.
Become the director.
by Miles Rote
Loneliness can strike even when we have close friends and/or a partner we love and feel supported by. One reason is because developed countries live in an isolating culture. And addictions to technology in those same countries only increase our sense of isolation.
But you’re never alone.
shift to connection
Having anxiety is normal. In fact, it extends beyond our species into many other animals because it's a life-saving mechanism. We should feel anxious about dangerous situations.
But in the modern world, it's triggered at inappropriate times, and sometimes can't be turned off.
Shift to Calm
Feeling tired may be a consequence of lack of sleep, diet, stress, or a sedentary lifestyle.
Whatever the reason, you can shift towards a state of feeling energized.
Shift to ENERGIZED
Widely misunderstood, and extremely personal, shame can be a sad, dark place that can be difficult to shake.
Important to understand and process, of course, but not something we want to get trapped in.
Shift to ACCEPTANCE
More information has been created in the past few years than all of human history combined. As a result, every day we absorb five times the amount of information we did in 1986. And now targeted algorithms incessantly follow us around with their hyper targeted content.
Of course we're distracted. More than ever, we need focus.
Shift to focus
Apathy is a sinister feeling that can make one believe the fundamental hope of personal fulfillment isn't possible. And it's utter bullshit. We know the more we use social media, the less satisfied we are with life and this is exactly why: it makes us feel like what we're doing doesn't matter, and subsequently we feel disinterested with life. Of course, apathy comes from different sources but it's always a lie dressed up as what feels like truth.
Apathy disconnects us from ourselves, but passion brings us home, reminding us what truly matters.
Shift to PASSION
A scarcity mindset is a survival mechanism that helped us evolve for hundreds of thousands of years. However, if you're reading this, it's likely doing more harm than good and no longer relevant in the same way it was 50,000 years ago. Our biology tells us not to risk what we have and society tells us we're not complete until we buy or do ______________. No wonder we feel insufficient.
The truth is, you already have everything you need. And abundance is everywhere.
Shift to abundance
Envy developed biologically to motivate us into action when we notice someone in our tribe has gained a certain stature/position/role we desire. In the right doses, it can be healthy. However, in a society thriving on consumerism, envy is abundant. And with instant access to highlight reels of people's lives on social media that are outside our tribe, it can become toxic.
But if you can learn to use envy for the right reasons, it can help you develop an authentic sense of self-efficacy.
Shift to self-efficacy
It's not uncommon for us to get trapped inside loops of thoughts and feelings. Eventually, these loops – played over and over again – can overwhelm us and make us feel obsessed. This evokes a sense of being controlled by the obsessive thoughts or behavior, instead of being in control of them.
But you don't have to be ruled by obsessive thoughts or behavior. You can break out of them and shift.
Shift to carefree
Fear is our oldest emotion and has been the catalyst for survival throughout time. Even though the modern world doesn't need to rely on fear for survival, it doesn't change the fact it's hard wired into us after millions of years of evolution. People often talk about getting rid of fear, or how it's a negative emotion, but at its core, fear is the basis for survival. Instead of getting rid of it, you can better your relationship and really get to know it. It can become a guide for where you should explore instead of a sign of what you should be afraid of.
Shift your relationship from fear and learn to feel curious of the unknown instead of afraid.
Shift to curiosity
It's common to see the glass half empty – we've all done it. The danger is getting stuck with the filter of pessimism and then seeing the world through a lens of negativity. One of the beautiful things about being human is we can change our filters.
By switching your filter to see things half full, you can encounter the same things in life but feel good about them instead of negative.
Shift to optimistic
Your environment produces you.
So become the director.